BlueDragonfly is one of the oldest eating disorder sites on the web. Sure, we've been through a lot over the years, but we're still going strong. We do not promote disordered eating or the mentality that causes it, but we won't attack you if you have not recovered yet, or if you don't plan to ever recover, or if you are in limbo between the two. Already recovered? Come on it. Know someone with an ED? You're welcome, too. This site is for *all* who are affected.

I DONT KNOW WHO YOU ARE, but thats not going to stop me from loving you, and all of the other flies agree. The anonymity of the internet makes it possible for us to connect safely, and the simple fact that we can't see each other lays many of our fears at rest. We can love openly when there's no room for judgment - no room for competition - and more importantly, we don't have to subject ourselves to the judgments of non-members - people who say we're too fat to be anorexic or so ugly that losing weight won't help us. [Yes, we get people like this. Please don't respond to them.]

THERE IS MORE TO LOVE THAN COMPATIBILITY. We don't have to know every detail of each other's lives to love each other. I love every one of the dragonflies, whether they're fat or thin, black or white, democrat or republican. This isn't a place for weighing friendships and social climbing. This is a place for sympathy and support. No matter where we're from, we're all in the same boat here.

I don't know who you are, but I know that a part of us is the same, even if all of the rest is entirely different. BlueDragonfly isn't about cliquishness and secrecy, and it is certainly not about competition. It's about you and me and getting through the day. It's about taking that pain the rest of the world has projected onto us and releasing it into the darkness where it can disappear, making room for the acceptance and joy that we deserve. [And yes, we each deserve it!]

I love every fly
because every fly
is a piece of me.

Loving the flies is the only way
I can learn to love myself.

You don't have to participate in our community to experience it. Not everyone has the freedom to join. Not everyone has the courage to join. But all of that is alright, because BDF was born to help, whether you actively take part or not.

The moment you come here, you are loved. The moment you discovered us, we loved you. We have known you our whole lives because we *are* you - all of us, suffering from the same demon and striving for the same light, we are all parts of one whole, and by sticking together and helping each other to grow, we can become stronger than we ever thought possible.

Solidarity. It's the only way our kind can survive. It's the only way we'll ever escape this hell. Just by witnessing our existence, you are becoming a part of it, and by becoming a part of it, you are strengthening it - you are strengthening us.

Our society is a reflection of our struggle, never ending and constantly growing. There are pieces of it that we can't even see, but somehow we know they are there. Somehow they help us through the darkness. You are always welcome here. You are always wanted here. Please don't force yourself through this illness on your own, I have tried it, and it is heartbreaking. I created this place so that no one would ever have to suffer alone again - so that no one would ever have to go through what I've been through.

I don't know who you are, but I love you.