I, nor this site, are trying to help anyone kill themselves. I have said before, will always believe, and always say whether I recover or not - Anorexia Nervosa is a mental disease that reflects an imperfection in the makeup of your ability to process emotion and stimulus. [Yes, I made that up - it's not regurgitated pap-speak from some Cosmo, like haters use.]

ANOREXIA NERVOSA IS NOT A LIFESTYLE CHOICE. You will *never* hear me say that. Anyone who believes that it is is wrong. Sorry. If you are indeed anorexic, you have no control over your mind, and cannot make that kind of choice over what you put into your body. You crave control, and think that by doing this you are indeed in control, but in fact, you have less control than you ever imagined. This sounds like a anti-statement, but hell, it's true. I even hate the term "ana" because it takes the edge off the seriousness of the disorder - makes it conversational. Makes it the in thing. Makes it okay.

THIS SITE IS NEVER MEANT TO TEACH PEOPLE HOW TO BE ANOREXIC. I don't think it's something that you can learn anyway. And even if the tips on distracting yourself can get you to skip a meal or two one day, that does not an eating disorder make.

I don't want anyone here who wants to lose weight. I do not want anyone here who thinks they are fine but could stand to lose a couple for their boyfriends.

Tips are to give you fresh ideas on how to stay on track so that you don't fall into a depression and kill yourself - not to teach you how to not eat.

If you are anorexic, then you do not need tips on how to not eat.
You do not need to be told how to stop eating.
You do not need to be motivated.

You look in the mirror.
Problem solved.

If not...surprise! Go to Weight Watchers. This ain't no diet. This is pure mental sickness.

This site is for support: We pat each other on the backs for our successes [as they are successes to us] and hug each other for our failures. We support each other through the rough patches and demand that you take care of yourself when another is in danger.

So much more than anti-food-ness goes on here. We have a way of being able to bare our souls to each other because we don't need to hide the most basic part of our mental makeup. It is a starting point: we all know where each other are coming from, we don't need to explain that, and we can trust each other more than anyone else in our worlds.

It's a support group in the best sense of the phrase: You're not okay, and that's okay. You can come here and try to find a bit of comfort in knowing that you're not alone, that you won't be judged, and that no one is going to tell you to fix yourself. You'll do that on your own when you're ready. And we will support you in that decision as well.

Because that takes the most strength of all: Wanting to be normal.